Colosians 3:12 says that even though we are saved from sin and we have a relationship with God we must still "put on" some things.
Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Colosians 3:12
Let us look into putting on "bowels of mercy" and "bowels of kindness".
Bowels of Mercy
When God saves us He gives us a desire to want to please Him.
Remember them that are in bonds, as bound with them; and them which suffer adversity, as being yourselves also in the body. Hebrews 13:3
There is a song we sing that says, "When one has a heartache we all share the tears". Saints of God have an empathetic spirit towards one another. A question we can ask ourselves is, "Can we empathize with what others are going through?"
And Abram said unto Lot, Let there be no strife, I pray thee, between me and thee, and between my herdmen and thy herdmen; for we be brethren. Is not the whole land before thee? separate thyself, I pray thee, from me: if thou wilt take the left hand, then I will go to the right; or if thou depart to the right hand, then I will go to the left. Genesis 13:8-9
Abram in this verse is looking at what he can do so there is no strife against him and his new Lot.
Joseph also had to put on "bowels of mercy" when he was dealing with his brothers that sold him into slavery.
And Joseph said unto them, Fear not: for am I in the place of God? But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive. Now therefore fear ye not: I will nourish you, and your little ones. And he comforted them, and spake kindly unto them. Genesis 50:19-21
Joseph had a good attitude and this is the kind of attitude we need to have as Christians.
Bowels of kindness
Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another; Romans 12:9-10
A Christian will prefer others before himself. We must work on these things and we must understand that kindness may come easier on some than others. But if we work on putting on "bowels of kindness" God will help us. That's why scripture says to "put on" bowels of mercy and kindness. He will mold us but we must be willing to let Him!